Table of Contents
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Foreword 9

Thanks 12

Apology 19

Chapter 1

Where to Start 23

Co-creation of Patriarchy 27

The Gift Paradigm 30

Exchange 32

Chapter 2

Language and Giving 35

Words as Gifts 37

Relationship 38

General and Particular

Processes 40

Giftgiving is the Ur-logic 41

Transparency and

Giving-Way 45

Transitivity 47

Chapter 3

Reciprocity 49

Is Reciprocity Exchange or

Turn-Taking? 53

Women are the Vanguard 56

Many Gifts 59

Chapter 4

Definitions and Exchange 63

Origin of Exchange 69

Restoring Gifts to the

Definition 70

Equivalence 71

Giftgiving at Both Levels 73

The Sentence Tree (or Root)

Diagram 76

Masculation 78

Chapter 5

The Concept of Man 83

One-Many 83

The Privileged One 88

The Incarnate Word 93

Chapter 6

'Marksist' Categories 95

Over-Valuing Substitution 98

A Divided Community 99

Family Values 100

Genderless Categories 103

'Hum' 104

A Personal Experiment 107

Chapter 7

The Collective Source 109

Environmental Niches 110

Starting with the World 113

Starting with Words 114

'Meaning' 115

Parasitic Relations 119

Many 'One-Manies' 122

Light and Shadow 123

Chapter 8

Castration Envy 130

Property and Money 130

Labor and Money 132

The Primordial Error 134

Puerarchy 136

Misogyny 137

Nurturing Exchange 138

Chapter 9

Is = $ 141

To Be Meta 143

Being and Money 148

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Being and the Aberrant

Norm 152

Quantitative Material

Co-munication 154

Chapter 10

Value 157

"Gracias a la Vida" 157

Creative Receptivity and

the Giving 'Grain' 158

Value, a Meta Gift 163

Value Modes 165

Nurturing Value Attribution 165

Language Value Attribution 168

Masculated Value

Attribution 171

Exchange Value 173

Re-present-ation 176

Chapter 11

Shifting into Exchange 181

Chapter 12

Giving Value to Exchange 187

Giving to the Market 187

Giving Value 191

Hierarchies and Makeshift

Communities 192

Giving the Givers 196

For-Giving 198

Supporting the Alien

Noncommunity 200

Chapter 13

Market and Gender 205

An Altered Reality 205

A Self-Replicating Parasite

on the Tree of Life 207

Being and Having 209

Owning the Value 'Sample' 211

The Social Nexus:

Male Sexuality

Overtakes Mothering 214

Acting Out Masculation in

the Market 218

A Collective Psychosis 219

The Long Arm of the

Definition of Gender 221

Profit 223

Having More 224

Punishment by Scarcity 226

Chapter 14

Deserving to Exist 229

Human Contradictions in

the Market 229

The Definition as Model:

Another Turn of the

Self-Similar Screw 232

Self-Similar vs. Other-Tending Selfhood 239

Thinking and Being 241

Being is Masculine 244

Existence by Proxy 246

Being Balanced 247

The Creation of Scarcity

By Those Who Deserve

to Exist 249

Does Giftgiving Exist? 253

Chapter 15

Pointing and Patriarchy 263

Icon and Index 265

Missing the Point 269

Symbolic Points 273

Verbal and Non-Verbal

Pointers 275

Symbolic Artifacts 278

Shifting into Context 280

Chapter 16

The Point of the Ego 283

Free (Masculated) Will 284

The Salary and the Ego 286

(Hetero) Sexuality and

Killing 288

Shooting 290

Giftgiving Versus the

Hall-of-Mirrors 294

Destination 296

Changing Hands 297

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Chapter 17

What Does Democracy

Re-Present? 301

The OBN of 'Ones' 302

The Sexist Point of

Democracy 307

Chapter 18

The Unmasculated Agents

of Change 313

The Self-replication

of the Sample 314

Dominator 'Marks' 317

Existence Quantified 318

Capital is Masculated Will 320

Women's Leadership 324

Chapter 19

Dreaming and Reality 327

Knowledge of the Heart 329

Our Common Dream 331

The Imposition of Re-ality 333

A Selfish Collective View 334

Dreams-Come-True Inside

and Outside 337

The Iroquois and the

White Man 340

From Re-ality to the

Goddess Rhea-lity 341

Mater-Mother 345

Mother Nurture 346

Emotion 347

Chapter 20

Giving and Love 349

Giving Embedded in Exchange 351

Sexual Giving 353

The Nurturing of

Competition 355

Value Accents 356

Judgments 359

Needing To Be Needed 360

Monetization and Morality 362

Compassion 364

Restoring Humanity to

the Mother 366

Conditional and

Unconditional Love 369

Parenting 370

Chapter 21

From the Garden to the Grail 375

Masculated Giving 376

Communicating with the

Gods 378

From Complex to Concept 378

The Authoritarian Father 383

The Holy Grail and

Alchemy 385

Male Nurturing 388

Human Sacrifice 390

Chapter 22

Cosmological Speculations 395

Chapter 23

After Words

Practicing the Theory 409

Index of Figures 421

Selected Bibliography 422

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